You ever feel like you're ticking someone off or at the very least pushing them away but don't know what you did? Or maybe you have a friend that you just feel is out of your figurative 'grasp' when once upon a time, you were really good friends?
I've had the feeling for a while now and I just can't quite put my finger on the 'why' of the matter. Maybe I'm just built to repel after you get to know me... Is this in my head, or does it have some substance to it? Don't be nice. This is not meant to be a pity post, I really want to know what I can do to make it better. Anyone interested in giving constructive advice and maybe even a criticism or two?
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I don't have any specific advice regarding your behavior (but, seriously, I have a hard time believing that you are intentionally driven away your friends), but I do want to say that this happens to everyone at some point. Friendships that were close just kind of...slip. And I don't think that there is always a specific reason or action or change that causes it. Sometimes the reasons you connected and were friends just fade and it's time to make new friends.
That being said, I hate it when someone I used to be very close to is all of a sudden outside my circle without any explanation. And passing in the hallways is awkward. And I wish there was something I could say or do to bring things back to the way they were. And at those times I just make sure that I never pass that person without a smile and a genuine hello and an attempt to connect, because I want to make sure that they know that I am still here and still care and want to maintain our friendship. What else can you do?
If I didn't work, I would SOOOOO want to hang out with you. Sorry we have to settle for Deeky and Juice spending time together.
BTW, the little brown gelatinous substance was an April Fool's thing :D
While not knowing exactly what you're referring to, I think you're crazy. I've known you for quite a while now, and I love you as a friend. We miss all of you like crazy! I wish and hope that we can see you again soon. Tell the Fam hi.
I constantly feel like I'm offending and alienating people. Seriously, it stresses me out. To the point where I end up swinging between trying to be the most sociable person in the world and hiding in my cave for a week or two. I don't know why I can't just turn off my brain and be normal, but that just doesn't seem to be in the stars for me.
(This is when I'm not involved in one of my own private dramas....which is every day--as you well know).
Sure, you probably offended someone, but that is NOT your fault. As I have often been reminded some people just "like" to be offended and find lots of opportunities to feel picked on.
I doubt you've done much to offend. You can always take them a loaf of homemade bread, and if they don't accept it, you can take them a dead fish and leave it on their porch in traditional hit man fashion. Then they might stop acting so annoying. ha ha
Seriously, I think you are a very thoughtful person, and I enjoy you terribly. Any chance you guys might transfer to NASA Goddard and be my neighbors?
Hmmmm, sounds familiar. I feel the exact same way!
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